Confession for Healing Not Forgiveness

May 9, 2012 — 2 Comments

I had the opportunity to speak at Cross Point on Sunday. We continued our series, Empty Promises, based on Pete’s new book. It has been a powerful series for our church, and for me personally. I talked about how easy it is to be addicted to our appearance.

Each week, we broadcast the message at our Internet Campus, and then following the message there is a live Q&A. Chris Surratt, the Internet Campus Pastor and I were talking during the Q&A, and in our conversation I quoted the scripture James 5:16:

Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.

Chris said something in that moment that was brilliant. He said, “The confession James is talking about  isn’t for forgiveness. It is God that forgives. It is for healing; healing that comes through confessing our sins to one another.”  I had never thought about it that way.

Most of us have the “forgiveness” type of confession down. We know that in order to get forgiveness from God we have to confess our sins. Maybe you grew up confessing to a priest; maybe it is something that you do in your quiet time with God; maybe it is something that you do after you’ve made a huge mistake. Most of us know that forgiveness from God comes through confession.

We don’t talk about the “healing” type of confession in the Church very often. In fact, we have built a religious system that tries to find healing through hiding our sins, not confessing them. The sins we do confess are safe sins: bitterness, jealousy, materialism, selfishness.

I was the master at this. I appeared “authentic” for confessing socially acceptable sins while I lived as a prisoner to sins I wasn’t willing to confess. For years, I forfeited the healing that God longed to bring to my heart not because I didn’t confess my sins to Him; but because I refused to confess them to anyone else.

Temptation loses its power when we confess. 

Sin loses its ability to keep us fractured when we confess. 

Addictions lose the control they have in our lives when we confess. 

God knew that we would need two things to live in freedom in this life: the burden-bearing love of one another and the power of God through prayer. Confess your sins to one another and pray for each other…so that you may be healed. 

Will living this way be easy? No. Will it be worth it? More than you could ever imagine.

Healing may be a conversation away.

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  • http://tcavey.blogspot.com/ TCAvey

     You mention socially acceptable sins and it brought to mind a person in my old Sunday School class who confessed to struggling with alcohol.  That person was seeking help and the majority in my group did not act in the Christian way, drinking was not a socially acceptable sin and that person shortly thereafter left the group. 
    Shortly I too left the group. 

    Sometimes we Christians are our own worst enemies to the cross of Christ.

  • Mteston1

    And the “healing” is also for the sake of the larger community. Our “sinning” will fracture and break the communities we are a part of. Our “sin” does serious damage to others whether we recognize it or not. We seem to have brushed that off with the forgiveness dispensary known as “church.” There are vertical and horizontal manifestations of our “missing the mark” (ie. sin). The horizontal manifestation, I believe, wreaks havoc in our world and Jesus died to expose it. I think you nail it when you talk about our attempts to hide it. The “cross” exposes the ugliness of the horizontal manifestation of sin. To only speak of the vertical manifestation with God is to reduce atonement issues to only one dimension. James’ entire epistle reveals the damage happening on a horizontal level between the rich and poor/haves and have nots who it appears are living and even worshiping together but ignoring the very human needs of one another. Authentic community is difficult indeed when we have a shrug of the shoulders attitude toward how damaging our sin is within the human community.