What if I told you that three words could radically transform your marriage…would you say them? What if two words could change the climate of your house when you get home from work? What if asking one question to your wife had the power to reconnect your spiritually…would you ask it?
All of our marriages are different. All of our circumstances are unique. But these five statements carry power. These five statements carry life. These five statements are what every wife needs to hear from her husband.
1. I Love You
I am amazed at the power of these three words. Sometimes they are spoken in person, sometimes over the phone, sometimes in a text or a hand written card or note. I try to tell my wife I love her several times per day.
2. You are Beautiful
For our wives, a huge battle for them is their self-image. How they view themselves. I want my wife to know beyond a shadow of a doubt that I think she is beautiful. I want her to hear me say it. I want her to see it in my eyes. I want her to go through her day believing that she is beautiful. I think she is, so I try to tell her as often as I can.
3. I’m Sorry
I hate conflict, so I used to apologize for everything. I don’t do that anymore. I have grown to see conflict in my relationship with Trisha as an opportunity to grow in intimacy with her. I embrace conflict. But, when I am wrong or when I have hurt her feelings, I say I’m sorry. Saying your sorry for consequences is different than saying your sorry for choices. I try to make sure I am at a place when I apologize, that I am sorry for my choice and not just the reaction or consequence of my choice. It makes all the difference.
4. I Believe In You
Our wives need to know that no matter what, we are their biggest cheerleader. It doesn’t matter if your wife is a stay at home mom or a CEO of a Fortune 500 company…she needs to know you believe in her. She needs to know that you support her and you have confidence in her.
5. How Can I Pray for You?
This is one that opens up rich conversation. This question implies I want to know my wife’s heart. When Trisha shares with me how I can pray for her, she is sharing with me those things that are closest and most precious to her…her fears; her insecurities; her imperfections; her frustrations. This question connects us on a spiritual and emotional level.
Speaking these words into your wife’s heart, will change your marriage. Your affection will grow for your wife. Her trust of you will grow. Your heart will transform. You will become more in tune to who your wife is and what her needs are. You will be God’s mouthpiece of truth into the heart of your wife.
Speak them. Text them. Write them. Just say them.