Three years into our marriage, Trish woke up in the middle of the night and I wasn’t in bed. She walked out into the living room and looked at the TV and I quickly changed the channel. She began to question me about what I was watching; why I was watching that; and asking me repeatedly if I...
Most Christian couples experience peaks and valleys in their relationship with God. Many times these peaks and valleys aren’t experienced at the same time by each spouse.
In fact, most couples, at some point in their marriage, will be in different places in their relationship with God. We...
I wonder if we live with a sense of discouragement in our lives because we focus too much on how far we have to go and not enough on how far we have come?
It is so easy for me to focus on how much I have yet to do. I can get consumed with how much I need to improve. I should be a better husband;...
It is amazing to me how husbands and wives can live in the same house, and drift to a place of disconnection, emotionally, spiritually and physically. It isn’t intentional. It just happens. Trish and I have been in that place. It isn’t fun, but how do you snap out of it? How can you...
I was talking to a friend the other day about some issues he was having in a relationship. Tension was high. Frustration was thick. Expectations were not being met. He asked my advice. I gave it.
I said, “You are a perfectionist. You have to be perfect in every aspect of your life and you...
Maybe this is a public confession and has nothing to do with you. Maybe this post is just me needing to share an insecurity I have that most people don’t struggle with. The truth about me is I think I can do God’s job as good as He can do it. I don’t say that out loud, but in my...
When we compare ourselves to others, we always lose. We are never pretty enough, smart enough, rich enough, successful enough, popular enough, recognized enough. The comparison game brings anxiety to our mind and hurt to our heart.
There is a comparison game that many people play in their...
Going into a new year, we all have great intentions, don’t we? We’re going to lose that weight. We’re going to read our Bible every day. We’re going to spend more time with our kids than on our phone. We’re going to improve in our marriage. We’re going to eat...
We are less than 2 weeks away from Christmas. I love Christmas. I love giving gifts. I love getting gifts. I love shopping for gifts. I love the feeling of nostalgia surrounding Christmas. I can hardly wait until Christmas. There is a sense of anticipation.
One Christmas tradition celebrated by...
We received an email this weekend that broke my heart. It was from a woman desperate for our advice.
She had a vision for her marriage. She dreamed of happily ever after. She never wanted to her marriage to be ordinary. She thought the longer she was married the happier she’d be.
Her vision...
When I was in high school I remember my basketball coach saying, “For every day you don’t practice, it will take you two days to get better than you are today.” I have no idea if that was a true statement, but it stuck with me. It upped my commitment to practice. I didn’t...
I had the opportunity yesterday to speak at Cross Point. It is an honor to be able to speak at a church I love. After the service people were very kind and encouraging about the message, both in person and on Twitter.
As I was leaving last night, I was reminded of a phrase that Trish...
