Why We Lie

I (Justin) haven’t been able to turn on the TV the last few days without seeing blanket coverage of the General Petreaus affair story. It has been all over the news and the internet.

Yesterday, during lunch I sat in a restaurant and programming was interrupted so the President could...

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A Step of Faith

Someone files for divorce in the United States every 20 seconds. 60% of all divorces are filed by people age 25-39. Of the people that stay married, most don’t have the marriage they dreamed they would have when they said, “I do.”

What if we could change that?

That is the...

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It's Only A Season

Trish and I have been talking a lot lately about seasons of life. As parents of two teenagers and one that drives, we have entered a new season of life. New seasons of life can be exciting. But not all seasons of life feel good. They can be painful, lonely, heart-wrenching or dry.

As I...

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A Few Months from Now

Sin’s greatest strength is that it is relentless. It wears you down. It messes with your mind. It always over promises and under delivers.

Sin doesn’t usually require you to make huge compromises or take giant leaps away from God…it lures you into...

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You Have to Choose It

This weekend was a pretty cool weekend. Trish and I got to be a part of Lifeway’s Festival of Marriage weekend. Over 600 couples gathered in North Carolina and Dr. Gary Chapman opened the weekend with a powerful talk on The Five Love Languages.

Trish and I...

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Seven Years Without Normal

Although we share our story often, I (Trish) don’t think about the details that took place seven years ago because I live in who we are now and not who we were then. But every year I see October 9th on the calendar, it brings it all back a fresh my desperate desire to go back...

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1 Year After the Affair

Seven years ago today, everything changed. With four words, I cost my wife, family and so many around me what seemed like everything.

“I’m having an affair.”

With those words, my sin was exposed and life as we knew it came to an end. Over the next two days, God would crush my...

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What Every Husband Needs at Home (That He Usually Gets from Work)

On Monday we got really honest about why guys struggle with being successful at their jobs, but not feeling successful at home. We heard from some women that said that this wasn’t a gender thing, that women feel that way too. As a guy writing the post, I didn’t want to speak for...

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Why I Succeeded at Work But Not at Home

For the first ten years of our marriage, I had a reoccurring feeling. Sometimes the feeling was prompted by an argument between Trish and myself. Sometimes it was simply a comment that she made. Sometimes, if I’m honest, this feeling come from deep inside my heart, because I knew there was...

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An Overflow of the Hear

The words we say have power. They have power to breath life into a relationship. Words have power to build up a marriage. They have power to inspire a child. They have the power to shape a soul. Words have power to destroy as well. They can wound a heart; they can damage a marriage; they can...

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More Spiritual Than You

It is so easy for me to have a judgmental heart. It’s so easy for me to think that I am better than someone else.

When you and I judge others we assume the worst of them. Judging is when you speak about someone’s sin and you feel no compassion. You have no obligation to help, and you...

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Breaking the Cycle

When we started dating our spouse, the time we set aside to invest in that relationship was huge. We carved out time to talk; we spent hours on the phone; we spent money we didn’t have to buy flowers; we drove long distances just to see them for a few hours; we went out to dinner three...

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