A Gift You Can Never Earn

The word, unconditional is an amazing word.

It isn’t dependent on performance. It isn’t dependent on ability. It isn’t biased. It doesn’t have favorites. It isn’t based on what one deserves or doesn’t deserve. It can’t be earned or paid back.

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Justin and Trisha On HIS Radio

We had a chance to be on HisRadio this morning answering a listener’s question about blended families. Check out this short video below:

 

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6 Questions that Will Radically Change Your Marriage

Life is busy. Trish and I used to think that the “next” season of life would be less hectic, less stressful, less busy than our current season. Life doesn’t seem to get less busy with time; it only picks up steam.

It is easy to go days, weeks and even months without...

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When I Do Feels More Like I'm Done

No one gets married expecting failure. No bride stands in a chapel full of family and friends, imagining how much she will despise her husband in ten years. No groom gazes into the eyes of his bride, daydreaming of one day living in the same house,  but not really sharing life.

We...

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Helping Someone You Love Through a Tough Time

This has been a pretty tough week for me (Justin).  I haven’t been myself. I haven’t felt like being around people very much. I’ve had very little desire to engage emotionally in conversations. My family has been very patient with me as my mood swings have been...

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I Met My Dad For the First Time

Closure.

The word itself isn’t that big, just to say it. It is a lot easier to say the word “closure” than it is to obtain it.

Closure is elusive. It is something we all desire but don’t always know how to find. Closure is the nice pretty bow we perceive others have tied...

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God Hasn't Given Up On You

When you grow up in church, there is really only one unpardonable sin. The Bible says that it is blasphemy, but in the church world I grew up in, it was adultery. When Trisha and I left ministry in 2005 due to my affair, I had no idea what the future held, but I was sure of one thing:

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The Greatest Enemy

Trish and I had only been dating two months when I told her I loved her.

I loved how she looked. I loved her Chicago accent. I loved her 1993 poofy hair. I loved the way she walked. I loved her smile. I loved the way she took her time in conversations with others. I loved everything about...

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A Letter to My Husband

A few months ago I was searching for a specific document and during my search found this letter. I wrote this love letter to Justin in 1994 a year before we got married. We had both moved to Vermont Illinois (a small farming town) for a part-time youth ministry position, while also attending...

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God Never Promised Easy

There is a reality that all of us face every day…life is hard. It’s only when I try to escape that reality that I am blindsided by the difficulty of life.

Friendship is hard.

Marriage is hard.

Integrity is hard.

Parenting is hard.

Leading is hard.

Family dynamics are hard.

I’ve...

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I Feel Nothing For You

Today, we are honored to share with you a post from our friend, Peter Greer. Peter is husband to Laurel, daddy to Keith, Lili and Myles, President and CEO of HOPE International (www.hopeinternational.org) and author of The Spiritual Danger of Doing Good (www.spiritualdanger.com). His book is...

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How to Bring Life to Every Relationship

he words we say have power. They have power to breath life into a relationship. Words have power to build up a marriage. They have power to inspire a child. They have the power to shape a soul. Words have power to destroy as well. They can wound a heart; they can damage a marriage; they can...

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