What If

What if you weren’t the only one?

That is what you believe at times isn’t it? Your reality seems to be that you are the only one. But what if you weren’t?

What if you weren’t the only stay at home mom that felt guilty for wanting to go to work?

 

What if you...

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You Can't Redeem Yourself

Three years ago I sat in a Starbucks in downtown Indianapolis talking with an old friend. Mark and his wife have played a huge role in our life, in our marriage and in our ministry. I worked for Mark for three years. He is the founding and senior pastor of Oakbrook Church. I’ve always...

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Reliving the Past vs Remembering the Past

Over the past few years I’ve taken some shots for talking about our past. I’ve had people email me or leave comments on our blog and tell me that I need to move on. The past is the past. Let it go. I’ve had people say that I am living in the past. Some think that I am glorifying...

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A Way Out

About 8 weeks before the affair started, a pastor-friend of mine questioned my relationship with that particular staff member. He wasn’t accusing me of anything; he was questioning my heart and giving me an opportunity to be honest and come clean. Telling the truth in that moment would have...

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Knowing and Believing

There is a huge difference between knowing and believing. You can know things your entire life, but until you believe them, they make very little difference.

Knowing changes how I think. Believing changes how I live.

I know God loves me; believing it means I live as the beloved.

I know I am...

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What Do You Love About Her

I had breakfast this summer with a good friend. His marriage was in trouble. For thirty minutes he told me how bad things were. He and his wife had grown apart. He listed all of the things that she did that drove him nuts. He deserved more than what she was giving. She didn’t appreciate...

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5 Things Your Husband Needs to Hear from You

After Justin’s post yesterday, I wanted to  follow with this post today. We don’t always get this right, but these are 5 things that make a HUGE difference in our marriage. As I speak them into my husband, our love for one another grows. I hope they are helpful to you.

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5 Things Your Wife Needs to Hear from You

As husbands, God has given us guys a responsibility to speak words of truth into our wife’s heart. Every day, there are lies of discouragement and doubt that the enemy tries to place in their mind. Our role is to come along side them; encourage them and remind them of truth.

Here are five...

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Good Intentions

There are so many times in my life that I have such good intentions.

-I intend to be home on time

-I intend to help with the dishes

-I intend to get up early and work out

-I intend to have a quiet time

-I intend to give my kids my best

-I intend to pray with my wife

-I intend to be generous with...

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Allowing Me to Forgive Myself

Author Lewis Smedes says this in his book The Art of Forgiveness:

When a person asks us to forgive him, he is also asking permission to forgive himself. What he wants is more than freedom from our judgment. He wants freedom from his own. In one sense, we are the only ones on earth who...

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Put Ice On It

Opening night of the NFL season last year our family was invited to a kick-off party. The Titans opened up against the Steelers. My middle son Elijah was playing flag football and had practice that night and Trisha had a meeting at the church. So my plan was to go to Elijah’s...

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Grieving God's Heart

I wonder if we live with a greater sense of discouragement in our lives because we focus too much on how far we have to go and not enough on how far we have come?

It is so easy for me to focus on the future. How I want my marriage to be better. How I need to improve as a husband; as a father; as...

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