Will You Feel Like a Failure

Last week, I was on the phone with a pastor friend of mine and we were talking about the challenge we are facing and the goal that we have and he said something that a lot of people think, but very few say. He said, “If you don’t raise all of the money will you feel like a...

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They May Seem Obvious

I had the honor of performing a wedding on Saturday. I love being able to share in a couple’s special day. As I was giving the message during the ceremony, I spoke about 3 things that have helped Trisha and I  journey together and love each other more today than we did the...

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Danger Signs

Signs Your Marriage is Drifting

1. You think that the absence of conflict equals the presence of intimacy.

2. You find yourself keeping certain details of conversations or events from your spouse.

3. You say you forgive but you are really resentful.

4. You care more about being right than being...

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Always Sorry But Never Changing

About three months before the affair started, Trisha and I got into one of, if not the biggest arguments we’d ever had. Our disagreement started out small but continued to escalate and get louder and more mean as the night went on. I inherited a pretty volatile temper from my dad, so even...

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Being Committed to Your Marriage

I (Justin) want to disclaim this post by saying that I am not a counselor or a therapist by training. I don’t have credentials behind my name, so this post may be contrary to what they teach in text books. I also want to say that the heart of this post is not to give people permission to...

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Truly Inspired

It is Tuesday! Tuesday in our house is Biggest Loser Night. The Biggest Loser is one of my all time favorite shows. I am a sucker for The Biggest Loser. I love the stories of the people that are on the show. I love watching them succeed in something that they have failed at most of their lives. I...

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My Need to Control

We haven’t bought new furniture in 6 years. In fact, the very first room you enter in our house is our living room. There has been no furniture in that room for the entire year that we’ve lived here. We called it the “rug room”, because we have an area rug in the middle of...

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When Life Gets Crazy Part 2

Yesterday, I did a post on two questions to ask yourself when life gets busy. So often in my life I think my schedule is the issue. If I just didn’t have as much going on, then I would be less busy. The questions we asked yesterday dig below the surface and allows us to see the...

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When Life Gets Crazy Part 1

Our life is so busy right now. We have three kids in three different schools, getting ready to start three different sports. We are full time spouses. Full time parents. Full time pastors. In my role right now at Cross Point, I am leading my campus in a giving campaign. So for the next three...

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The 80/20 Rule

Last night my phone received several text messages. Two friends were texting me about the same issue just different circumstances. The first, I have walked with for more than a year. He has shared with me parts of his heart that he hasn’t shared with anyone else, other than his wife. He...

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When I Do Starts to Feel Like I'm Done

No one gets married expecting failure. No bride stands in a chapel full of family and friends, imagining how much she will despise her spouse in ten years. No groom gazes into the eyes of his bride, daydreaming of one day glaring at her across the courtroom as they divide their assets. We...

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What You Pretend to Be

One of the most common questions we are asked is “How?”

  • How did you overcome your struggle with pornography?
  • How did you heal from sexual abuse?
  • How did you forgive?
  • How did you repair your marriage?
  • How did you renew your relationship with God?
  • How did you start over?
  • How did...
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