The Other Woman

When we share our story, what gets the headlines is the other woman. The detail that people like to talk about is how I, as a pastor, could have an affair with my wife’s best friend. The other woman represents a huge mistake. The other woman symbolizes a gigantic fall from grace. How could...

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3 Things I Wish I Knew Before I Became a Parent

Yesterday at Cross Point we had our first Child Dedication service at the Bellevue Campus. Our campus is dubbed “the family campus” and this service proved that to be true. We had 29 children that were dedicated. It was a great day.

As I sat in my office and looked over my...

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Keeping Score

Over the past couple of weeks Trisha and I have met with a lot of married couples. Some have had train wreck experiences…some have just drifted over time. Some realize they have some serious issues. Some have dysfunction that they aren’t even aware exists. Each of the couples we have...

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Not Proving It

We spent most of the first ten years of our marriage walking on eggshells. Careful not to say something that would start an argument. Trying to make sure I jumped through the right hoops so that I could prove what a good husband I was. Trisha nervous about spending money or burning dinner or the...

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Desperately Seeking Normal

It’s been a crazy couple of weeks for the Davis household. From multiple snow days to overbooked schedules, it’s been hard to find a rhythm to our pace of life. As a wife, mother, daughter, sister and friend I struggle to fulfill any of these roles well when I am out of rhythm.

I have...

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The Highest Price

Trisha and I had the opportunity to speak at Mountain Lake Church yesterday. The services were powerful and we were so honored to share our story.

After the first service we made our way to the lobby to greet people. A man made eye contact with me. His eyes were blood shot and his...

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Do You Love

Have you ever read a passage of scripture so many times that you kinda tune it out applying to your life? It’s not that you don’t believe in its truth or understand its meaning…but it’s so familiar that it is has lost it power to move you?

A few days ago, something too...

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Unknown Expectations

We’ve written a lot on our blog about expectations. We have learned the hard way that an unspoken expectation is always an unmet expectation. We have written about the Reverse Messiah Complex and how we expected each other to be our messiah. We’ve talked about...

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Anything for Love

I remember the very first Valentine’s Day I spent with Trisha. It was 17 years ago today. I borrowed a friend’s car (that was much nicer than mine) and took her to a restaurant called Bennigan’s. I had the Monte Cristo sandwich. Trisha had a salad with Blue Cheese dressing....

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Two Fears

One of the predominant emotions that characterized our marriage before the affair was fear. Fear is something we usually equate with traumatic events or circumstances. But fear grips more of our heart than we are often willing to admit.  I lived most of my married life with a spirit of...

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That Constant Pull

I am coaching my eight year-old, Isaiah’s basketball team and having a blast. It has been so cool to see him and his teammates grow and improve this season. I love coaching. I was a little surprised last week when I got a call from the commissioner of the league. He called to tell me of...

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I'm The Worst Father Ever

There isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t wish I was a better husband. There isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t wish I was a better dad. Often, those thoughts get the best of me. I think through something I said that crushed one of the boys. I think about how much...

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